My daughter would utter those words to other toddling little beasties while strutting around the playground. Never did she display a fear of being rejected. In her head, I'm sure, it just wasn't an option.
She ALWAYS made friends.
I started thinking about the idea of 'adult friendships' and how much it has morphed with social media, specifically Facebook.
The Friend Request - So very different now than it was back on the playground. How I admire people who meet someone out in the real world and then BAM!! they are Facebook friends.
There are 146 'friends' on my Facebook page. A relatively small number, compared to much of what I see on Facebook. A few of my 'friends' are family, some are real life friends that I see somewhat regularly, there are the friends I knew through work or other on-line venues and friends I've met through OTHER on-line friends - meaning, you 'chat' back and forth via comments on a post and eventually someone takes the plunge and sends a friend request.
I'm a shy friend-er. If you get a friend request from me, you can pretty much equate that to the experience of sighting Bigfoot. It isn't because I don't want to have more friends, it has to do with me fearing that you don't want to be mine!
I will sometimes get friend requests from someone simply because we have a mutual friend - I blame it on Facebook and their incessant insistence that SuchandSuch Person is someone I "might" know. STOP PUSHING PEOPLE ON ME, FACEBOOK!
I don't (normally) accept requests from a person just because we have a mutual friend. There needs to be some kind of interaction/connction - enough for me to get a vibe about who they are. There are exceptions, of course - there is ALWAYS room for exceptions.
I'm also selective because I am a
And, also...there is a bit of shyness. I've sent friend requests that have been ignored by people that I never suspected would do so. And no, I don't just suspect I was ignored...I KNOW it. That may be why I'm reluctant to extend myself. But, let me be up front and say that I've ignored my fair share of requests as well...all from strangers.
I think that is why I want potential 'friends' to come to me. In my mind, if they make the effort, then THEY want to be MY friend - somehow that seems more legit. I do realize how flawed this logic is and that it is entirely likely someone isn't friending me for the same reason! But, that's the way it is.
Friend requests are personal. I know that isn't the case for the majority of the Social Media Universe, but it is for me. Weigh in...what do you think....
Does this sound wrong?
Am I investing too much thought into modern friend-making?
What are your thoughts?
Do you freely 'Friend' and why?
Or are you somewhat reserved...and why?
This is NOT a request for more friend requests. Just an observation and a hope that more people will confirm they think like me and that I'm not nearly as crazy as I think I am.
Kthxbai and have a nice day.